GET IT RIGHT
How easy does it look like loving someone for so long and keeping the fire of love burning till forever?
From what I have studied so far, loving someone can be simple and difficult the same time, depending on your perspective and maturity in handling what you feel for each other. I was in a relationship where I got the perspective of being in love wrong from the start; so I can say that the start was not on a solid and good foundation.
I was a guy who was not even sure of what he wanted, living through life without a direction but was caught up in the midst of the "I want to belong syndrome" group, the group of guys who claims to be churchy but not holy, the group of guys who thinks they can be of the world and belong to God the same time. Guys who prays and sings in tongue and later go ahead indulging in sexual sins. I had a serious urge of belonging to this group of guys.
This pushed me into claiming to fall in love when I don't even know what it means to fall in love or what it even entails and what purpose it was meant for. Most of these experiences hunts me and I do wish I never had to trail that path while growing up, but what has been done has been done already and can only be addressed moving forward, because you cannot keep looking back if you want to move forward.
With studies and personal observations, I have discovered that, you need to know who you are first before getting into any relationship. Ask yourself this few questions though not limited to these:
* Who am I?
* What is my purpose?
* What do I want?
* When do I wish to get married?
These questions might look simple to answer to some and difficult for some, because it depends on the level of understanding you have of yourself. Once you are able to provide a solid and accurate answer to question one, there should be a smooth sail in answering others. Who you are will make you know what purpose you are created to fulfil, your purpose will be in line to determine things and people you want in your life and this will help you decide with the help of God who you want to marry and when.
So I believe strongly that before you enter into any love relationship, give answers to those questions. Being in a love relationship is not a game or a competition, there is no trophy to be won.
So be intentional, don't be pushed by pressure from families and friends. Get involved in love when you know you are ready to settle down and prepared for all that comes with it.
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